Understanding Trauma: It’s Not Just What Happened — It’s What Lives On

Tonya Andrews
Jul 19
2 min read

Updated: Jul 21

Trauma isn’t just about a single event it’s about the impact. It’s about what lingers in your body, your thoughts, your relationships, and your nervous system long after the moment has passed. And if you’ve ever felt like you're “too much,” “too emotional,” or just can’t seem to get over something “small” — I want you to know this:

You are not broken.You are living with unprocessed pain in a world that hasn’t always been safe.

💔 What Is Trauma Really?

We often associate trauma with big, obvious experiences ofabuse, accidents, and violence. While those are traumatic, there’s a broader spectrum that we don’t talk about enough.

Trauma can also look like:

• Growing up in a home where emotions weren’t welcomed

• Constantly walking on eggshells to keep the peace

• Being praised for your performance, not your personhood

• Not being believed, heard, or protected

• Repeated microaggressions or identity-based harm

The common thread?Your sense of safety, control, and connection was compromised — and your body still remembers.

🧠 Trauma Lives in the Body

Even if you can’t “remember” the details, your nervous system might still be reacting like it’s under threat. That can show up as:

• Chronic anxiety or hypervigilance

• Emotional numbness or disconnection

• People-pleasing or conflict avoidance

• Trouble trusting others or yourself

• Feeling “too sensitive” or misunderstood

And this is why healing isn’t just about talking through it .It’s about finding safety in your body, your relationships, and your daily life.

🌱 You Deserve a Trauma-Informed Approach to Healing

In my work as a trauma-informed life coach, I don’t just offer motivation or mindset shifts. I offer space — safe space. Slow space. Sacred space.

Together, we move gently and intentionally. Because trauma may have rushed you, silenced you, or shaped you… but healing doesn’t have to.

✨ Wellness, Reclaimed

Healing isn’t about becoming someone new.It’s about coming home to yourself; the version of you that existed before the world told you to shrink.

Whether you’re navigating relationship wounds, people-pleasing patterns, burnout, or a lifelong feeling of “not enough” trauma-informed life coaching can help you:

• Reconnect to your body and intuition

• Build emotional resilience

• Set boundaries without shame

• Release survival patterns and reclaim your power